Getting married for a second time is a beautiful thing. No one is too old, or too late to find their happily ever after. We all love second chances, and in romance… sometimes that’s just what the doctor ordered. Planning a second wedding can be as simple or extravagant as your tastes desire, but you’ve done this once before. Here are a few tips and tricks to help you say “I do” this time.
Today is not the olden days. If your heart so desires, wear a white dress. White is symbolic of purity for many, but it’s also synonymous with weddings and the commitment you’re making today. So, feel free to look like a snow princess.
Or Don’t Wear White
Who cares if it’s a white dress!? This is your [second] wedding, do what you want. Wear off white, hot pink or neon green. Show up in a denim dress…well maybe not that one, but, this time, make it more about you and less about tradition alone.
At this point in your life, you probably have enough dinner ware to last forever, but your guest will probably still want to get you something. Keep your registry creative and maybe add all the things you’ve wanted. A luggage set, an espresso machine, tube amp turntable, or skiing equipment. Be creative. Use your imagination.
Don’t Count on Mom and Dad
We’re not saying your parents don’t love you, but if they footed the bill for the first wedding, they might not chip in this time. You’re older, wiser and more independent. That applies to financing the wedding, too.
Do Get a Cake
This is one tradition it’s hard to skip. People want cake. Guests want to admire it. They want to see you cut it. Cake is expected. There are new trends in wedding cakes, though. Mini-cakes, cupcakes, naked cakes, and even tarts and pies. Explore styles in our gallery and online to see what works for you and your groom.
Don’t Invite the Ex
Blend the Family In
This is important and fun. Often in second weddings, families are blending. Each family has its own set of traditions, expectations, and experiences. Have fun involving family members in little ways, but don’t lose sight of the fact that this is your wedding.
If minor children are involved in the blending of two households, involving them can create a memory for the rest of their lives. Give each child a small role they are capable of playing successfully. Don’t stress them out on the big day, but include them in a sincere way. They may be a flower girl, ring bearer, read a scripture or a poem at the reception, or even a member of the wedding party. Help them be part of establishing a new home together.
Throw a party! Your reception can be formal, casual, intimate or a little on the wild side. This is a renewal, a second chance, a fresh start, — so celebrate it! Get a band or a DJ to help you celebrate this new chapter of your life with your new family and new spouse.